November 13, 2008
Jarvis, Sheila
Sheila Ann (Murphy) Jarvis, a resident of Dedham for 40 years, and formerly of Allston, died Tuesday, November 11th, 2008 at the Brigham & Women’s Hospital in Boston. Sheila was born and raised in Allston, MA, the daughter of the late John J. and Ann M. (Finn) Murphy. She worked for over 25 years as an Administrative Assistant in the Health Department for the Town of Dedham. She is survived by her son Thomas M. Jarvis, and his wife Aileen of Pelham, New Hampshire, and her daughter Donna A. Remedis, and her husband Matthew of Carver; her seven grandchildren, Kristina, Meaghan, and Maureen Jarvis, Katelyn Vargas, and Patrick, Thomas, and Kelly Remedis; her brother John Murphy of Maine; her niece Carolanne Tally of Foxboro; her three nephews, Christopher Murphy of Weymouth, William Murphy of Peabody, and John Murphy of Dedham; as well as grandnieces, grandnephews, and many cousins. She was the longtime devoted friend of Frank Scurti of Dedham. Relatives and friends are invited to attend her funeral Monday, November 17, at 8 am from the Folsom Funeral Home, 87 Milton St, Dedham followed by her Mass of Christian Burial in St. Ann’s Church, 82 West Milton St., Readville at 9 o clock. Burial in Brookdale Cemetery in Dedham. Visiting hours Sunday from 2 to 6 PM. In lieu of flowers donations to the Spina Bifida Association, 733 Turnpike St., Suite 282, North Andover, MA 01845 or to Athena’s Hope, c/o Rockland Trust, 40 Pine St., Carver, MA 02330 would be appreciated.
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To Sheilas Family My thoughts and prayers are with you this time. Sheila was a wonderful person and we had some good times while working at Dedham Town Hall. Rest in peace Sheila.
You are and will always be my best friend the times we shared were always great. I have so many memories all of them so special , You taught me so much . I will miss you and think of you every day . Mom Ilove you and thank you ,I am who and what I am because of you and only you . I love you forever Timmy
Hey beautiful. Its been a great seventeen years. I know you will always be here with us. I am one of the lucky ones to have known you so well. Me you, and daddy always together. The friendly’s ice cream and the Sunday dinners. It isn’t goodbye, it is a see you later only because I know i will see you again someday. You are what kept me sane all these years and without you I would not be who I am now. You were a good girl, turned into a nice young lady, and turned into a nice woman. I love you always & forever.
see you later , Kristina
It has been a long and difficult journey for you all…My thoughts and prayers are with you right now in your time of need. I know that there are no words that anyone can say to console any of you, for your loss is of a great magnitude. Keep her alive with her spirit in your hearts. It is never easy, having void this large. I pray that you all find comfort in her memories, and in each other. Rest now, Sheila…Rest now in peace! God Bless you all!
Nana,
Ohk I know this sounds ridiculous, but mom said if I talk to you on this guest book thing somehow it’ll make things much more easier. And to be honest it kinda is because I can express to you and tell you how my life is. Its like a diary, but to you. Well to start off Friday I had my first semi-formal. I had a beautiful purple dress. And I knew your two favorite colors were purple and turquoise on me. And when I found out you were in the hospital that evening, I thought of how you might enjoy my purple dress! Saturday, I found out that my best friend had passed away. IT felt as if the whole world has came to a complete halt and slowed down. I didn’t wanna move. But for a second I thought about all the beautiful memories we all had together that no one else could experience. Our Sunday dinners and the love you shared. And I couldn’t help but to cry. Then I thought for another moment and realized that me crying isn’t going to change the fact that your gone. And if you saw me crying over you, you would tell me to suck it up and not to cry over you. You needed to rest. And you were just sooo tired. I love you Nana. See you Sunday Gorgeous.:)
Love always your granddaughter;
Meaghan Elizabeth Jarvis.
SHEILA MURPHY JAVIS
I will always remember her sense of compation and great sense of humor. Her smile always lit up the room!
I will hold so many wonderful memories of her in my heart,
She will be sorley missed by all.
hey beautiful. its been almost two months. Its Christmas time and usually right bout now i’d be spending the night with you as usual. I love you nan. your my best friend always and forever. Miss you always ; watch over us please. Dad and the girls especially. I dont know how much more I can take without you. See you later gorgeous<3
Merry Chriatmas 2008 Nanaa. MIss you and love you.
Talk you later.
<3Meaghan always.
Oh Lord give me strength to get my family through this holiday season. Literally every holiday, birthday, Sunday, any day is pure agony for your little angels and your inconsolable son. Sheila, I don’t know what to do…I feel helpless. I miss you also…I know that you are at peace right now…Just please watch out for the girls and Timmy at this time…they miss you terribly…the pain is palpable here..keep an eye on Frank too…he’s lost without you..nobody expected this, but I know that you aren’t suffering anymore…the selfish part of us wants you back so bad…we miss you…Merry Christmas Sheila…rest now…
Once again I am here;; I need your advice but I can’t get it anymore. You were the one I went to for your opinions and your advice. I have no one anymore to go to. Mom and Dad Never understood like you did. I just can’t do this anymore Nana. I can’t live without you. I just want you back. This isn’t fair that you died and pardon my french… but some A hole on the street gets to live it up and drink it down. All I can ask is for your help… I will probably try praying or something but it never helps me I always found it hard to like actually believe that prayers come true. Cause when I do try to talk to you (In Prayers)… I just feel like I am talking to myself and nothing comes true.
Whateverr. I guess.
Love you lots Nana;;
XOXOXOXOXOX
Meaghan Elizabeth Jarvis.
Just wanted to drop a note to tell you all I love you and no matter how hard this pain is, we can get through it. You need to still be a part of the family we have and look forward to laughs and silly memories – it certainly is time to create new memories and new traditions. Girls I know you visit these notes often so I thought what better place than to tell you I LOVE YOU ALL and I am always here for all of you – day and night.
Remember – the way to move forward is to create new memories that Nana would be proud of. She loved a party and let’s remember that it’s important to keep getting together.
Love ya,
Carolanne
Happy Valentines day Nan.
xox.
Meggie.
almost four months girllfriendd. I graduate next year. I know you wanted to be there. And you will be in my heart and in spirit. Love you always. you’ll be my guardian angel and strength for as long as I am alive<3 miss you
Miss you!
<33 Watch over me.
Love you always;;forever.
~Meaghan.~
Hey girls,
Just keeping an eye on Nana’s little angels. I’m thinking about you always 🙂
Love,
Carolanne
Happy Easter Nana<3
I miss you like crazy!
hey nan. i know its been a while, and i havent wrote on this cause its well pointless. i miss you more than words could say. Im mad. your gonna miss my birthday this year, and graduation next year. seeing me off to college. i wish you were here beautiful. I miss seeing you smile, and hearing your laugh. Its what made me happy when nobody else could. i am so glad you were more than just a nana. <3 love you always!
I miss my bestfriend<3
Its too bad someone like you has passed ,you were 1 in a million Sheila! I know you cant read this Sheila but my thoughts and prayers are with you.
forever missed Jeanne
Sheila, I can’t believe it’s been a year. We miss you terribly. Nothing is the same anymore. You were the glue that held this family together. I know that you’re not worrying about the same things that we are. You are at rest, as you deserve. Things are just so messed up. I don’t know how to fix it. Miss you….love Aileen
Dear Sheila,
I can’t believe a year has passed already. I know you and my dad are together now, hopefully talking about good times. We are doing fine. You did a great job with us and we will make you proud. I still hear your words of wisdom, especially when I found out my dad was so sick. I only wish I knew about his weak heart earlier. I can’t believe you two had so many similarities in your health but after getting to know dad again, I realized how much you were alike. Of of the strong differences, you always told us how proud you were of us. My dad, well – he was proud but didn’t exactly tell us in the same way you did.
I miss you every day and I’m thankful your words are still very strong in my heart and in my head. You are truly the best aunt ever and I know now you are my angel that I still hold dear in my heart. Thanks for the wonderful years and the most loving memories I know.
Peace Sheila. Please tell my dad I love him now and I always did. He is a good guy.
Love,
Carolanne
Merry Christmas… I wish you were with us right now specially round the holidays.. You were the glue that held the family together nan. Its kinda lonely without ya…. I lost you and everyone else too please look out for daddy. Hes gettin sick again. I miss & love you always.
Hey Nana<3
and please look out for daddy
don’t take him tooo nanaa<3
Hey Sheila, can’t sleep at all tonight…You are extremely heavy on my heart these days….We kind of all feel like we are free falling through life right now…it amazes me as to how people are dealing with you being gone..the girls are miss you terribly and so does Tim…he’s not the same, nor are the girls, without you here….There is so much that I don’t understand these days….please send a sign as to what to do over certain issues…everyone is just emotionally, spiritually, and physically exhausted….keep watch over the family or what ever is left of it….so chaotic and confusing…missing you!! Especially Tim and the girls!!Aileen x0x0x0x0
Just revisiting the nice comments about Sheila (mom, nana) and just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of all of you and hoping you are doing ok. Kristina I just wanted to tell you how proud Nana is of you – she’ll be watching over you next week as you graduate.
With love,
Carolanne
Hey Nana.. I leave for school tomorrow. I wish you could be here, I know you wanted to be there too but obviously you cant. I really do miss you more than words could describe and it really just sucks. Im gonna live in Boston like we always talked about, only I cant stay with you while im in college :(. I start Simmons College next week, and im going for pre med. I know you would be proud, I just wish you were here with me. It would make everything a lot easier. love you so much nan thanks for always being someone to listen even not here on earth. xoxo <3 Kristina
One month, till its been 2 years. cant believe it, I still miss you as much as I did the first day you were gone. Love you so much and I hope your looking down and you realize how much of an impact youve made on so many peoples lives. College is so different, and I love it dont get me wrong, I just wish I had you to be here and share it with. ps make sure daddy knows he is going to be okay. I know he gets scared when he gets sick, just watch over him and help him through everything.
Miss& Love you tons Nan,
hope its better up there than it is down here beautiful <3
–Krissy
Two years…. I dont know what to say nan, I just miss you so much words cant describe. I really wish you were here to talk to, seriously. I wish I could see your face just one more time and hear you talk with your voice comforting me. Its just so hard without you and every day seems to go on making it harder. How am I supposed to fix this? I just need answers. I love you so much beautiful and miss you always.
Hope you can hear me..
<3 Krissy
Merry Christmas Nana. This is the third one without you <3 I miss you so much and this year happens to be the worst one yet. Time keeps going on without you here and its sad to see it happen. I truly miss you each and every day and I hope you are watching down from Heaven. Dad is yet again getting sick and it makes me nervous because I cant lose him too, so please watch over him and everyone else too.
xoxo
Krissy
Hey nan, I just wanted to say I love you.. Miss you still as much as I did when you left. Happy Easter, and watch over us please! I finished my first year at Simmons, and I did really well. Love you always & forever nan..
xoxo* Krissy
Nan, I miss you so much. I know I keep saying it… It just doesnt seem real to have a life without seeing or hearing from you everyday. Its been close to three years and I still remember the good times like they were yesterday.. <3 Look out for everyone specially daddy. Things keep going bad for him and I just need our guardian angel to watch for him.
Love& miss you always nan
happy b day missing you so much,crazy how life turns out,people change,thank god you didnt witness it,hope your running heaven,looking down on >us<,love forever Tim
God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
“Come to Me”
With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we love you dearly
we could not make you stay.
A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best<3
I cant believe its been three years nan…. miss you more than words could describe <3 keep watching over us love you and miss you forever*
Thinking of you ,and our valentines partys when kids were little ,memories are all we have of you ,and they are great memories,alots changed ,but never our love for you and respect for you,I will right the wrong thats been done , I know what you wanted ,wished,and expected,love always Tim
They say time heals, but nothing takes away the pain that was left when you had to go. I love you more than anything, and miss you more each day. I graduate college in less than two years, I cant believe it. I wish you could be here Nan. You are my inspiration to everything I do, and everything I do is for you <3
Almost four years… Im so grateful that even though you passed away, it was on Veterans Day so I can always take that day and spend it thinking about you.. I wish you were here so I could share you with my friends Nan, you were an amazing person and I miss you so much. I am going to be an RN in a year, and I honestly would not be where I am today without your inspiration and dedication. Rest easy nan. Always in my thoughts and prayers
Happy thanksgiving nana. This my fourth one without you, and it isn’t any easier. Love you with all my heart. You’ve really shaped me into the person I am and I couldn’t be more grateful. Hope your looking down on us and your proud. Love you always and forever
Krissy
Love you so much my girl xox I graduate soon, had the ceremony today. You’d be so proud. Hope your shining down on us and know how much we miss and love you, not a day goes by I don’t think of you. Everything I do, I do for you xox
Love you. Miss you so much today, Happy Easter- hope your watching down on me Nan. Thinking of you a lot lately. <3
Hey Nan,
Just wanted to say Hi and I miss you. I cant believe its been so long and I have already graduated college. I never thought I would make it this far here without you. I hope that when I talk to you, your listening and when I think about you, you can see that. Your still my number one, my best friend, and someone who has shaped me to be who I am today. I miss you
Forever loving you<3 Krissy